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Nicci Kadilak's avatar

We tell ourselves stories in order to live. 💖

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Minter Dial's avatar

I was talking with a film writer friend about the power of storytelling. He said that it doesn't really change between fiction and non fiction. In any event, either type of story moves us when we'll written.

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Reena Kapoor's avatar

That rings true to me because I end up writing in many formats to make sense of things...sometimes it comes out as poetry and sometimes as an essay like this one :-)

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Minter Dial's avatar

Hugo said something along the lines: "la forme est le fond qui remonte à la surface". That is that the container / format is the main content that is bubbling up to the fore... So I think there is yet some forms that are more adequate than others, depending on the story being told

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Nicci Kadilak's avatar

Same here!

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Reena Kapoor's avatar

Doesn’t that ring so true, dear Nicci?

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Nicci Kadilak's avatar

so very true!

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Santosh Mathur's avatar

Excellent! The 1st step is the most important and like you rightly stated - "Be there. Listen. Acknowledge what the person is feeling without getting judgy."

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Reena Kapoor's avatar

Thanks so much Santosh for reading and writing to tell me! That's so important, hard as it might be.

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Shabnam Arora Afsah's avatar

WOW! It made a LOT of sense. Alas, in our over-polarized world (where each one of us thinks that she has a monopoly on deciding what is right and what is wrong for not just herself but also others around her) there seems to be an acute shortage of empathy. Thank you for writing this essay.

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Reena Kapoor's avatar

Thanks Shabnam! So very true. We’ve all stoped talking and think our purpose is to simply pass judgment. Apparently that’s even considered moral. I appreciate you reading and writing your thoughtful comment so much!!!

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Nicci Kadilak's avatar

Well said.

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Monita Mohan's avatar

Well written as usual. I identify with listening and not become invested in your solutions for them. Sound advice!:)

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Reena Kapoor's avatar

Thanks Mona for reading and sharing. That is so true -- and so hard as well!

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